Today, I’d really like to help you decide whether your style is working for you because that is the most important thing!
There are so many entities trying to tell you what you need to wear, how you need to wear it, and what you should look like… and I’m so against all of that. I truly feel that if your style is working for you it will lift you up and help you feel beautiful… and in order to get there you need to block out all that noise, dive deep and be honest with yourself. You need to ask yourself, “Does my style truly work for me?”.
The questions below will encourage you to think about whether or not your style is working for you, but to get to your truth, you’ll need to reflect back on how you feel about the answers you come up with and whether or not it’s time to action change.
Does your style match how you feel today?
This question is so so important. I want you to think about this closely because sometimes you need to feel like your clothes are hugging you. Sometimes you need to feel powerful. Sometimes you need to feel cozy to have your best day and sometimes you need to feel like the most “dressed” woman in the room. Your style doesn’t necessarily have to look like it’s been pulled from a magazine ad to match how you feel. Does your style match how you need to feel today?
Are you using fashion as an empowering tool?
When your style is working best for you, it’s because you’re using fashion to express yourself. That’s the number one priority. When you’re wearing things because you’ve been told to by a well-meaning friend but they just don’t feel comfortable then fashion could be working against you. Are you using fashion as an empowering tool?
If you saw an old friend would you say, “Hi!”?
Sometimes the best way to figure out how your style makes you feel is to think about how you might react if you bumped into someone you haven’t seen since high school. This strategy cuts through the all the other stuff and gets to the core of how you feel about your style. If you saw an old friend, would your current style give you the confidence to say “Hi!”?
{An aside… if you happen to see said friend on a day that you really just need to feel like your clothes are hugging you, supporting you in the coziest of ways, then you may have other things going on that are affecting wanting to say hello or not.}
Are you navigating major life changes with curious experimentation?
If you’re going through a huge life change, you may find that even though your style once felt great for you it no longer does. Know that this is totally normal and very common—you are not alone! If you’re really into style and using fashion as a tool, you may find you can navigate through this time on your own, experimenting and having fun with it. Other times it’s extremely helpful to have a neutral party weigh-in and help navigate your style change. Are you navigating major life change with curious style experimentation?
Does your style invoke feel-good feedback?
Although style is all about you and only you, the way people react to you can affect the way you feel. If someone pays you a beautiful compliment, you will feel lifted up, which may in turn give you the where-with-all to lift others up. It becomes a beautiful chain reaction of positivity.
When your style feels good for you, you will receive this kind of positive feedback. The people you pass will see something on your face, an unmistakeable look that they won’t be able to ignore. Does your style invoke feel-good feedback?
Does your current style put your best foot forward?
I know a lot of women who admit that they’re “hiding”. This is especially true when we’re going through a transition of some sort. Although I understand the feeling, I don’t encourage it. Making a few switches in your style to make you feel happier and more like you right now can have a wonderful ripple effect in your life (see above). Your style is an easy exterior thing to change that can help you move forward with inside stuff, too.
Hiding in your style is different than what I like to call “quiet style”. You may be naturally quiet or shy and not want to stand-out, which tends to lead to a style which is the opposite of bold. Bold style is not the goal here. Being true to you is. Does your current style put your best foot forward?
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